Cultural norms and history silence men's pain

Traditional leaders and experts highlight that cultural norms, historical injustices, and societal expectations contribute to men suppressing their emotional distress and abuse. A recent case involved David Suze, who was stabbed by his girlfriend and faced judgment from police. Abner Xoagub from the Damara Chief Council explains that apartheid-era policies separated fathers from their families, leading to a lack of male role models. Many men were raised by mothers, leaving boys without guidance. This absence has caused feelings of failure and guilt, preventing men from speaking out. Boys often learn to suppress emotions and handle problems alone, leading to silence in adulthood. Xoagub notes that even he avoids discussing personal issues with his partner. Traditional authorities address violence cases regardless of gender, ensuring accountability. While reports from men are not frequent, they do occur.

Understanding the impact of historical and cultural factors on men's mental health is crucial for addressing systemic issues and promoting support systems.